ANNOUNCER: The following program is sponsored
by generous friends and partners of Real Life.
ANNOUNCER: Welcome to Real Life with Jack Hibbs.
JACK: Ephesians 5, verse 33, nevertheless, let each one of
you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the
wife see that she respects her husband. This is amazing
because if he loves her the way Christ
loves the church, she will respect him.
ANNOUNCER: Forces are at war attacking
marriage, which in turn threatens the survival of
the family. Today in Jack Hibbs' message, The War Against
Marriage, learn what the battlefields are in this warfare
and what God would have you do about it. Real life starts now.
ANNOUNCER: "Living in the Daze of Deception,"
the bestselling book from Jack Hibbs is
now available. Lies that surround us are
growing more frequent, more sinister, in politics, social
media, government, even in the church. Distinguishing truth
from disinformation has become more difficult than ever before.
"Living in the Daze of Deception" is a watchman on the
wall proclamation that teaches us how to discern truth from the
culture's lies, and protect us from the deceit that bombards us
daily. Order now and receive exclusive video bonus content
from Jack Hibbs, four key educational videos to help you
know how to identify and combat falsehoods masquerading as
truth. Be equipped with eyes wide open. Receive "Living in
the Daze of Deception" and the exclusive bonus videos when
you make a gift of any amount to the ministry of real life.
Get your copy at jackhibbs.com or by calling
877-777-2346. It's time to act. Order now.
JACK: Hey, listen, my friend, 'they lived
happily ever after.' Have you ever heard
that before? Well, you kind of hear it about a
story, a fairytale. It might've been something that's in
a wedding, that for now on until death do us part. And
there's almost a sense of doves flying and starlight shining and
pixie dust illuminating the scene. It's a marriage and it's
beautiful and it's perfect, but you and I know that's not true.
Why? Because, listen, there's a war against marriage and that
shouldn't surprise you. Number one, listen, who invented
marriage? The Bible says God did. Well, if God invented
marriage and He loves it, and if Jesus and the church is a symbol
as to what marriage is about, then how much does Satan hate
marriage? Friends, just look around you. It's absolutely
obvious by how governmental powers, cultural powers, those
who'd want to socially re-engineer our world have
attacked marriage. This is what we need to understand. The world
portrays marriage as something being evil rather than good.
What about all the television broadcasts you see? Marriage is
weird. Marriage is to be cheated upon. Marriage is to be mocked.
From social media, commercials, you name it. Marriage is under
attack like never before. This fight is a spiritual fight. It's
in the spiritual realm, my friend. God invented marriage.
The reason why it's hard is because it's good. And the
reason why it's under attack is because Satan hates your
marriage. He hates marriage at large. From it comes nations.
From it comes a family. From it comes a church. So
listen, buckle up and let's get into the
message, The War Against Marriage.
JACK: The war of 2024 is against husbands.
Husbands. Ephesians chapter 5, verse 25
says this, husbands, love your wives. You guys
see a new wiggle room in that? See any options in there?
Nope. Just as... and by the way, what's our example? Okay,
pastor, Husbands, love our wives. What's the example? Here
It is. Just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for
her. Husbands are supposed to be sacrificial providers for their
homes. Husbands. Husbands are to be lovers of their wives.
Husbands are to take care of their home and the protection of
their home and for the supply of their home. Husbands. Today in
our world around us, husbands are made fun of, husbands are
mocked, and a lot of husbands have inflicted a lot of
self-inflicted wounds about being a husband, and we don't
need to do that. We can follow God's example. Why? What do we
do? Verse 26, that He, watch this, that He, Jesus might
sanctify and cleanse her, the church, watch this, with the
washing of the water of the Word. The husbands to do the
same thing just as Jesus says to us. That he might present her to
himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any
such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
Verse 28, so husbands ought to love their own wives as their
own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Now, you
think about this for a moment. Jesus Christ loved the church so
much that he laid down his
life, and that's the example for
husbands, is to lay down their lives for their wives. You say,
oh pastor, if you knew my wife, you wouldn't lay down your life.
Listen, here's the amazing thing, man. Listen, I got good
news for you. God has anointed the man in marriage to be able
to rescue his home. Maybe, listen, what if you're married
to an unbelieving, godless
woman? God gives you the ability
to win her over. It's supernatural. You love on her.
You show her, you ask God, God, how do I love her? Listen, God
knows exactly how your wife needs to be loved and He'll tell
you if you ask him, because, you know, you've been trying to
figure it out for years and you haven't done it yet. Listen, we
can't do it on our own, but the husband in this day and age,
marriage is under attack. What does that tell you? It means
that Satan hates marriage and Satan hates husbands because a
husband has the power to make or break a wife. That sounds like a
very, very bold and bombastic statement, but it's absolutely
true. Have you ever seen a
beautiful woman with an ugly man
in marriage? So how'd that happen? And then you see how he
treats her and that woman realizes, this is a husband. We
were at dinner the other night and we had the young waitress
just kind of eavesdropping our conversation and I dunno what
age she was, but she's young and she says, I'm done messing
around. She said, I want a relationship that's going to be
a long-term relationship. I want to get married. I want to have a
life. And we thought that was very refreshing. Husbands, love
your wives, the Bible says. And the Bible says in the book of
Proverbs, chapter 18 verse 21- Listen, all the husbands and men
should be writing these down. If you're not, then girls and
wives, write them down for them. Proverbs 18:21 says, death and
life are in the power of the tongue. We all know that, right?
We can pull out our tongue and say something to somebody that
would not only make their day but make their life. Did you
know that? You can say something to somebody- And by the way,
listen, young ladies, young ladies long to hear affirmation
from their dads, and we live in an age when that's not happening
so much, so they find affirmation in whatever guy
comes along who says a nice word. Those nice words should be
coming from a dad. We'll talk about this more later, but
husbands ought to be speaking to their wives in words that give
life. If we're going to make it in 2024, the number one thing
under attack is your home, your family, your life, your
children, and you being a husband. Men, I'm speaking to
you. These four things are very important that we need to be
careful as men, as Christian men. We're talking about
biblical manhood here. We're talking about the tone of our
voice when we speak. We can say the right thing the wrong way,
doesn't come out right. Now, listen, I'll throw myself under
the bus. A lot of times I say something and I meant something
completely, and then it comes out and it's like, oh no. Can I
reel that back in? Because everything about it was right,
but it didn't sound right. And then you feel like you're backed
into a corner. What are you going to do? The tone of your
voice matters, how we speak, and then the use of the words that
we select. Husbands, we need to use the right kind of words. We
need to tell our wives rightly, properly, not in a way that's
fake or false in any way, but we need to tell them, you look
beautiful today. I love you. That was a great job you did.
That was an amazing achievement on that project, or that was a
great meal, or that was a wonderful evening out. We need
to say it. Well, she already knows it. It doesn't matter if
she knows it. Say it. We need to speak it. And then also the
environment. This is something that is very powerful. There's
an environment. A husband has the power to affect the
environment or the atmosphere of where he lives. Did you know
that? A husband has the power to shape an environment in a home?
I grew up in a very stern home, a very quiet home. I know you
find that hard to believe, but see, I'm making up for lost
time. We didn't- Very quiet home, you could hear the
grandfather clock ticking, and just a really quiet house, but
very stern. And when my dad was, my dad never repeated anything.
He would never repeat a word. You either caught it the first
time or you'd catch the back of his hand. You better be
listening. And the tone of the voice and what we say, but the
atmosphere... As boys, you know, we'd goof off. We're boys. Boys
goof off. But then when my dad would pull up, everything
changed. Wasn't a, oh boy, dad's home. Let's play. Let's fi-
we're going to climb the tree together. We're going to go...
It was, straighten up, stand straight, tuck your shirt in and
don't talk unless you're spoken to. What kind of atmosphere do
we as husbands leave or create in our homes? God cares about
that. And there's a war on husbands, to have husbands be
something that is maniacal or hard or cruel, and that's the
way of the world; and that's an offense to God. In 1 Peter,
chapter 3, verse 7, 1 Peter 3, verse 7 says, husbands, likewise
dwell with them that is your wife with understanding. Okay,
that's impossible. You know that, right? Husbands, likewise
dwell with them with understanding. You can't do
that. It's impossible. That verse right there tells you the
Holy Spirit must be active in our lives. We must look at that
verse this way. Husbands, likewise dwell with them with
understanding. Dear God in
heaven, help me to understand my
wife. And that's not any attack on me or my wife. It is a human
natural life issue. We can say something, she takes it
different. She can say it, I got it different. It's like, what?
What's going on? This is part of the fall. We need to navigate
that, but we need the Holy Spirit to help us in our
relationship and we need the Holy Spirit's power to cause us
to be husbands. Giving honor to the wife. Giving honor to the
wife? What does that mean? Put her on the top shelf. That's
what it means. Leave the verse up here real quick. I'm not
really big on this, but I read a book on this. You know ballet?
Ballet. Did you know in the original ballet, did you know
that the woman always wore white? I dunno what they do
nowadays, but she always wore white. And does anybody know
what he wore? Black. Do you know the stage was, what color?
Black. The color- What was the screen... the curtains? Black.
Everything's black except what? Her. And you know when she's
flying around, the audience only saw her being elevated, being
propelled, caught, gracefully put down on the earth and then
thrown up again and spun about. She was the only one that you
could see. And in marriage, it's to be like that, because a man
ought to be secure in who he is and his calling in life as a
husband, that God has called you, perhaps. Not all men are
called to be married. Some men are called to be single, but
some are called to be married. And the way that we are to live
our lives is like Christ served the church. And what does he do?
He elevates the church. He
gifts the church. He blesses the
church. And let me tell you, you have a man that takes care of
you that way, you're going to keep him. He's worth keeping.
He's a keeper. Boy, it's quiet in here right now. Giving honor
to the wife as to the weaker vessel, that's not an offensive
statement. It means that she can't bench 250. And as being
heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers may not
be hindered. Isn't it amazing how many men think they're
praying and God's not listening because he has a horrible
marriage relationship with his wife? Husbands, God made us
husbands. God loves that design and He's for us. Ephesians 5,
verse 33, nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love
his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects
her husband. This is amazing because if he loves her the way
Christ loves the church, she will respect him. There's none
of, like, okay, I've got three loves in on you and you've only
got one respect on me. Come on. There's none of that. Love keeps
no scores. 1 Corinthians chapter 7, verse 16. 1 Corinthians 7,
verse 16 says, for how do you know, oh wife, whether you will
save your husband? Or how do you know, oh husband, whether you'll
save your wife? Paul the apostle was writing to believers in
Corinth and they were very, very... messed up church, came
out a very, very cult-like culture in Greece, and many of
them got saved, but sometimes, listen, maybe the husband got
saved but the wife didn't or the wife got saved and not the
husband. So what are you supposed to do about that? The
Bible says win them to Christ. If you're married to somebody
who's not a Christian, that's your mission field. Oh, I wish
God would send me to Peru. Well, maybe listen, maybe your
missionary field is sleeping right next to you, your husband
or your wife, which leads us to number seven, which is regarding
the wife. The war of 2024 is against the wife, the wife.
Think about it. Think about pop culture today, think about
culture at all. Think about what our kids are being taught. Think
about when you mention the word husband, wife, marriage. What do
you hear among your friends or neighbors or your acquaintances?
How do they view what a wife ought to be? It's predominantly
mocked, made fun of, the institution of being a wife.
Listen, Proverbs chapter 12, verse 4 says, an excellent wife
is the crown of her husband. That word crown in Hebrew is the
surrounding wreath of glory. Let me read it then this way. An
excellent wife is the crown of glory that surrounds her
husband's head. That's beautiful. There's a scene in
Jurassic Park, the first one, where Malcolm says, the woman
asked him, scientist Malcolm, are you married? He said, oh no,
I'm single, but I'm always looking for a future ex-Mrs.
Malcolm. What a disgusting statement that is. Oh, I'm
always on the hunt for my next ex-wife. But is that not the way
of this world? We named the name of Jesus, listen, the number-
Look, I'm up here on Sundays and Wednesdays, but my family knows
me, right? Who knows me better than anybody else on this
planet? My wife. And, you know, listen, you can look at a woman,
I'm telling you right now, you can look at a woman before you
ever have a chance to talk to her, or maybe you'll never talk
to her at all, she's just walking by, and being involved
in ministry as long as we have, you can look at a woman and you
could tell if she's abused or not. I dunno if you know that or
not, but if this is the work that you do, and we do that kind
of work, I can tell when a
woman's abused or not by how she
carries herself, the look in her eyes, the demeanor on her face,
what is known as her deportment, how does she carry herself, her
shoulders, her purpose, serious things. Why do we bring this up?
Because we are forming a barrier against the attacks of the enemy
against our lives this year. I can't speak for any other
church, but it's my prayer that this church not survive 2024,
but conquer, flourish, thrive in 2024. The Bible says in- The
Bible says in Proverbs 18, verse 22, he who finds a wife finds a
good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. I can tell you
right now, Proverbs 18:22 is exactly what happened to my
life. God saved me at the age of 19 because if I... I probably
wouldn't have lived to the age of 20. God saves me at the age
of 19, I make this conclusion, I'm going to make money, live at
the beach, and be single for the rest of my life and serve God.
That was my plan, totally committed to that. Make money,
live at the beach, serve God. And that was all working fine,
by the way. And then I was at work, I just happened to be the,
I was playing volleyball at the beach, that was part of my job,
and a friend of mine says, Hey Jack, there's a great Christian
girl over there walking with her friend. She's a great Christian
girl. And I said, yeah, right. Don't talk about that. And he
goes, no, no, I'm serious. I'm serious. And he said, come on,
come on. So he introduces us. She's cute. She's cute, but
that's it, that's it. And so we're talking and then we talk
some more and then talk, and then a few, take this now out a
few weeks. And now about the third week, I remember thinking,
okay, I have to make a decision here. I got to stick to my
rules, my plan. She's messing up my plan. But you know what?
Listen, take this if it works for you. I was thrown on the
horns of a conundrum. What shall I do? I had hung around with her
too long where I just couldn't walk away. But if I decided to
walk away, I somehow knew inside that I was walking away from
something that would not be gotten back. So when you're
having that battle of, do I commit or do I walk away? And
the question you must ask yourself is, can you walk away
without looking back? Well, that was easy. No, I could not. So I
don't know how soon into our relationship I bought a ring,
but I bought a ring without her knowing about it. I got a ring
and I dunno how many months I waited, but I asked her to marry
me. Why? Because I concluded there is no way that I could
live the rest of my life knowing that some other guy has got
this gem of a woman. He who finds a wife, finds a good
thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
JACK: You know, the Bible tells us,
husbands love your wives. Wives, respect your
husbands. In other words, guard yourself against the
temptation to go with what
our emotions demand and dictate.
Notice this, when the Bible tells us for the husbands to
love their wives, that is something that is unnatural. It
means that we need supernatural love from God to love our wives
the way that they're to be loved. And then husbands are to
be respected by their wives. And all the wives, I can hear
moaning right now on the other end of this camera. Oh, Jack,
you got to be kidding me. But listen, that is what God has
commanded. And so both of you are to nurture a walk with God
that is one that is honoring him. You need to fight and to
defend and to stand strong for your marriage. Friends, listen,
leaving your husband and your wife for something greener on
the other side of the fence is not the answer. You're just
going to carry all the junk that messed up your marriage into
this next one. Above all things, it's an affront to God. The
Bible says that God hates divorce. And by all means, if it
can be worked out, the Word of God has given you the
instructions to do that. Fight together. It is a combat that
we're in together. It is a war against darkness to bring about
the will of God in your life. Marriage, listen, marriage is
not necessarily designed to make you happy. Always get an eyebrow
or two raised when I say that. Oh, I thought, Pastor Jack, that
this man was going to come into my life to make me happy. No,
God brought that man, that woman into your life to make you holy.
And as believers, you're to be doing this together. In Mark
chapter 10, verse 9, the Bible says that really it's the vow
that you took, that until death do we part. God heard you say
that. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man put
a sunder. Let no man separate. That's the Bible truth. friend.
Fight for your marriage. You want to war for your marriage.
You want to war for your children. You want to war
because God has said to fight for that great institution that
He made that no man can redefine but God alone. Listen, we're
here to help you with your walk with Jesus. That's what we're
all about. We love studying the Bible. I think you know that by
now. We want you to grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord
Jesus Christ. And so that's why we'd love to have you go with no
obligation, have you go to
jackhibbs.com and see and peruse
other things that are there for you to study, to watch, so that
we might help you get closer to Jesus in the Word of God
together. Until next time, God bless you.
ANNOUNCER: You are watching Real Life with Jack Hibbs.
ANNOUNCER: "Living in the Daze of Deception,"
the bestselling book from Jack Hibbs is
now available. Lies that surround us are
growing more frequent, more sinister, in politics, social
media, government, even in the church. Distinguishing truth
from disinformation has become more difficult than ever before.
"Living in the Daze of Deception" is a watchman on the
wall proclamation that teaches us how to discern truth from the
culture's lies, and protect us from the deceit that bombards us
daily. Order now and receive exclusive video bonus content
from Jack Hibbs, four key educational videos to help you
know how to identify and combat falsehoods masquerading as
truth. Be equipped with eyes wide open. Receive "Living in
the Daze of Deception" and the exclusive bonus videos when
you make a gift of any amount to the ministry of Real
Life. Get your copy at jackhibbs.com or by calling
877-777-2346. It's time to act. Order now.
ANNOUNCER: Life is full of fear, doubt,
and worry. The more you listen to and see the
world today, the easier it is to feel hopeless and
helpless. Amidst the confusion, a voice of hope has
emerged. The Real Life Network founded by Jack Hibbs, the Real
Life Network is a free digital media platform. Void of the
noise of secular media that attacked people of faith. Click
on the QR code or sign up for free
at reallifenetwork.com. Fast forward your faith.
ANNOUNCER: Welcome to Real Life Radio with Jack Hibbs.
JACK: God's word never will return
void. God's word is spirit, it's power, and it
has its effect. God did not give us Bible prophecy
to scare us, but to prepare us. You are the light
of the world, Jesus said, you are the salt
of the earth. How does that happen?
ANNOUNCER: Jack Hibbs truly believes we
are living in some of the most exciting days
in history, which brings some great opportunities to
share with the world a powerful no-nonsense presentation
to the gospel to this generation who are searching
for answers and truth. Will you stand with us in sharing
this message in real and practical ways? We ask that you
commit to support Real Life and the teachings of Jack Hibbs with
a gift of your choosing. Simply go to jackhibbs.com and there
you can simply follow the instructions of how to give a
one-time gift or a recurring gift. If you would prefer to
call, our toll free number is 877-777-2346. Again, that's
877-777-2346. And of course you can write us. Our address is
Real Life with Jack Gibbs Box 1273 Chino Hills, California
91709. Your gift will be faithfully put to work
because it's our desire that through
Jesus Christ, you will know Real Life.
ANNOUNCER: The preceding program was sponsored by
generous friends and partners of Real Life.